When leaving your child with the nanny is a heartbreak...

All parents, especially mothers, who entrust their children to a childcarer know the feeling of guilt. You have just spent months of bonding with your baby and the first steps to entrust your little one are far from obvious. Here are some rules to leaving your child with her nanny.

Entrusting your baby to a childminder

Here it is, tomorrow you start the adaptation to the licensed nanny and it is hard, very hard!

You know your new childcare assistant so little. Will she take care good care of him?
Trust the nanny and you will see that the separation will also be less complicated for your child. He will discover another environment, other children, another culture sometimes and it will be beneficial for its development.

Perform a gradual adaptation, staying with him at first, then leave only for one hour the first time, then two, then three ...

A difficult separation for mom.

The first time I met J she was pregnant. The meeting went wonderfully. A few weeks after giving birth, she came to show me her baby. We reviewed everything several times to refine some of the details of the contract. 

Two months later, we had set a schedule for the initial adaptation and that day, I felt a bit strange. I quickly realized that the prospect of leaving her baby was really hard. I reassured her, explaining that her "little guy" will always love his mother more than anything in the world and that I would take good care of him. She burst into tears and me too.  

In 20 years, this was the first time that a mom opened up to me with emotion as transparent. I was really touched and distressed even if I thought the baby had nothing to do with it, he would fine. During the first  hours, I regularly sent her text messages, to reassure her. To each of them, she responded "thank you from the heart," "thank you that makes me feel better," "cool, I was going to ask if everything was OK." I continued my texting for a good two weeks and even today when the "little guy" is not very very, I still send them. It costs nothing and it gives her reassurance.

And sometimes for your little darling it's hard

While the childcare goes well, there are morning and without knowing why your child no longer has any desire to go to his nanny's and often there is a tantrum and tears. This does not necessarily mean that there is a particular problem with the nanny, the child is just expressing that separation is also hard for him sometimes. For mom or dad these moments are truly heartbreaking.

But do not worry, the tears dry quickly and nothing prevents you a quick phone call half an hour later to see if everything is going fine.