My child is in danger, I have to react!

The everyday care with a nanny, it's playing games, outings and closeness that comes with time spent together... for the most part. But you're vigilant, and you've noticed unexplained marks on your child's body, a neighbour reported that she often hears screaming from your home during the day... What if your child was a victim of violence? And if your nanny the abuser? It's then necessary to react immediately.

Abuse, violence... what are the alarming situations?

On this subject, the news items are too many and too shocking.

• There was the extreme negligence of the nanny who left a baby unattended in his bath, 
• there is the unconsciousness of the one who left the children alone to go for a run,
• there is dishonesty from the one who leaves your child to someone you've not chosen, without discussing it with you,
• there is the neglect from the one who locks your child away and does not care for him throughout the day,
• and there is the violence of the one who loses patience and hits your child.

 We hesitated to tell you because it can be traumatic for parents and stigmatizing for nannies. We wish to repeat: in the vast majority, nannies are GOLDEN. But it is our responsibility to warn you that such rare cases exist, and must always remain vigilant.

These serious problems are often seen by those around rather than by parents directly. But one might find oneself feeling discomfort and disarmed faced with such situations. Maybe no one will dare to speak out for fear of your reaction,  maybe they are thinking it as you already know, etc. That is why it is important to regularly consult with those who are in contact with your nanny and ask them to tell you of any problems they find.

What to do about your nanny?

Your first reaction, the world is wrong! Faced with such problems, the simple discussion will not suffice. Trust is lost and can't be recovered. You have to separate you from your nanny.

The evidence is difficult to gather. In cases of violence, go to a doctor for a medical certificate. Then send a registered letter with acknowledgment of receipt to your nanny notifying her dismissal for gross misconduct. You can also file a police report and press charges against the nanny.